Welcome to yet another exciting moment of wise counsel with precious Ogholaja. I am indeed convinced that you will find this article of great help in taking your business to a more profitable height. Today, I am going to talk about, ‘How to set quality goals for your businesses’
However, before I begin, it will be very important that we familiarize ourselves with the four most important key words in the title of this article: Set, quality, goals and businesses. Some people might say, ‘that is not necessary’. Well, that is their opinion. But, I think you will do your self more good if you understand what you are reading. My aim in this site is not to put together some few mutilated article just to rank well in search engine, but it is my commitment to offer you time proven solutions to your needs. Or is that not Ok?
Now, let us look at these key words:
·Set: to set means to position, locate, lay down, situate, etc.
·Quality means worth, value, excellence, superiority, eminence, etc.
·Goal: A goal is a target, purpose, an ambition, aim, objective, etc.
·Business: A business is any undertaking in which service are rendered or products are sold to a specific market with the aim of meeting a need and making profit.
From the above, it is obvious that we are looking at ways in which we can set valuable and excellent target for our business enterprise. Any business enterprise without quality targets cannot fulfill the tenets of its establishment.Setting quality goals is not only crucial to the success of any business, but it is particularly important for entrepreneurs who can become distracted without focus. Goals direct actions, give you something to aim for, and can serve as a yardstick for measuring your business' success.
However, it is important for me to emphatically state here that, as good as goal setting is to the success of any worthwhile business organization, the way you approach it will determine whether you will be able to attain your goals or not. Majority of people agree that goals are imperative, but less than ten percent of people write down goals or have any pragmatic action plan for attaining them. This is often caused by fear of the unknown. Most people do not like to write goals down on paper (a crucial part of goal setting) because they are afraid to commit to them. From the onset of their journey for success, they have already plan to fail. Whosoever that is afraid to plan and commit himself to the process that will guarantee his or her success, has already planned to fail. If this is your problem, your life can still be turned around for success. Try to remember that a goal does not have to be rigid; it can be changed at any time after you write it down. Also keep in mind that goal-setting becomes easier the more times you undertake it. This has happen to me, and in the process I discover a fundamental truth, “When you have set goals and attain them, the power of goal setting will compel you to set more”
If you truly desire to achieve success in your business, take heed to the following:
Avoid lazy hands
Think big and start from where you are with what you have. Do not limit your self by setting goals that will not provide incentive and motivation for your growth. Some entrepreneurs set goals that are too easily attained because they imagined they will fail if they set big goals. How can any one who desires success in business think this way? If you tend in this direction, apply your heart to wisdom and look for ways to challenge yourself. If you usually aim to add one new client every month, push yourself to shoot for three or five.
Have short-term and long-term goals
Do not have only short term goals while ignoring the long term goals. The accomplishment of short term goals gives one the motivation to accomplish the long term goals. You might want to set daily goals, weekly goals, monthly goals, quarterly goals, annual goals, and even 5-year or 15-year goals. However, you choose to go about it, do it now, do not procrastinate.
One way to generate short-term goals is to first consider your long-term goals. Consider what you want to achieve. Is there a certain amount of money you want to earn or a number of clients you need to sign up by a certain time? If nothing comes to mind immediately, which does happen a times, do not be discourage. Take a few minutes and think about what professional goal you would like to attain, think about what you need to do to deliver more quality service, capture more market share, diversify and or expand.
Once you have determined long-term goals, you can work backward. For instance, if your goal is to make ₦5,000, 000 this year, you should make a list of what it would entail to make that money. When your list is complete, break those small steps down into goals.
In this case, what is required to make that money becomes your short term goals, and making ₦5,000, 000 within that specified time becomes your long term goal. If you encounter difficulty creating your list, ask trusted friends or a successful business expert for help.
Make your goals specific and measurable with a deadline
Do not make your goals so vague that it does not provide a means by which you can judge your success. Do not generalize your goals; be specific so that you will know at the end if you have fulfilled it. Modify your goals by making them specific. All goals should be specific, measurable, and have a time frame.
Persevere and persist intelligently
You need to intelligently persevere and persist to set quality goals for your business. If your system of setting goals does not seem to be working because you are not attaining much of what you write down, do not give up. Keep setting goals for several months and you will find that your goal setting skills has improved. In the same vein, if you constantly achieve no tangible result each time you set goals, stop and ponder. Do not change all the component of your goals, but modify and diversify your approach. For it is insane to continue to do the same thing in the same way over and over again and expect to get a different result.
Do not program yourself for failure
Make sure your goals are attainable. If you aim too high, you are dooming yourself to defeat. And if you aim too low, you will never grow and achieve much; for you can only achieve what you desire and pursue passionately. No man has the right to whatever he has not passionately and vehemently pursue persistently.
Be relevant
Goals should help you attain a specific aim. Look out for goals that are just not going to keep you busy, but active. Goals that is appropriate to the overall success of your business. The commitment to clearly demonstrate to you how to set quality goals for your business is what this article is meant to do. If you do not believe your goals are worthwhile, you will not make the necessary effort to achieve them. That is why you must set quality goals that will help meet the needs of the society, and equality enhance your sense of self worth. The highest form of tragedy is for a man to exist without anything to be proud of.
Constantly review your goals
Keep your short-term goals in plain view – in a place where you can see it daily- so you know what you need to attain. Look at your annual goals monthly to see if you are on track. If the focus of your business changes, do not be afraid to alter your goal. Flexibility is a crucial component of goal-setting.
Finally my friend, I want to say that it is the ability to know how to set quality goals for your business that will make you stand out. This had been the secrete of every successful business man, and will continue to be the driving force for any worthwhile venture. If you do not know how to set quality goals for yourbusiness, do not keep quiet and die in silence, seek expert advice from qualified quarters; advice from those who have left a blazing track record of successful accomplishment in your chosen line of business. This should not be people who will be jealous of your success, but those who want you to succeed as well, and are willing to commit to your success.
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The histories of old were not made by luck, but by a definite belief in ones ability for success, and an absolute commitment to manifest their beliefs. In the same vein, the future record breakers shall be who will refuse to be spectators, but determined to be achievers; those who believe that they can win.
If there is any potent factor of success, it is belief. It is belief that made Thomas Eva Edison to persist in the face of fierce opposition, rejection, criticism and failure until he produced electricity and became the world’s most celebrated. His generation celebrated him because he contributed positively to their improved standard of living. Past, present and future generation are gladdened because of his haven lived. Though, he his long dead, but his contributions to making the world a better place are still singing his name and his praise. Friend, are you a minus or a plus in your generation? If you die today what will your generation regrets missing? Are you contributing to make the world a better place, or you are creating and constituting a problem? Think about it.
Every day we dream of reaching the top in our career, profession, business, or ministry. Majority of the time we meet with temporary defeat and fail to achieve our ambitions. When this happens instead of putting it in perspective and soar bravely to begin again with the motivating power of belief, we tend to become frustrated and give up. This is not the right thing to do. It shows that we were not at all committed to our dreams. It shows that our dreams were not important to us. When your dream is important to you, you will not afford to give it up because of some present difficulty. Who told you that every good thing comes easy? But when you persist by refusing to give up God will send you a helper who has the ability and the willingness to help you to achieve every detail of your dreams.
I have lived a while in this world, and I have spent all my years in search for answers to the puzzles I have come meet in this world. These puzzles made me to set up a lot of controlled experiment to enable me to find answers to these puzzles so that I can help my self and also be in a vantage position to help others. My discoveries have being pretty much interesting, inspiring and challenging. They have helped to transform my life from a dismal failure to a resourceful person. Those with whom I have shared it with are also experiencing remarkable changes in their lives, and I am convinced it will do you good as well. I have seen two people being confronted with the same problems, but while one is consumed by it, the other prevailed. Going back to my controlled experiment, I discovered the reasons behind this and I am committed in this article to share one with you.
The primary reason why men give up on their dreams and ultimately end up as failures in life is because they do not belief in themselves, their dreams and their creator. They lack the motivating power of belief. Because they do not believe that it is possible for them to climb to the top, they also fail to persist. And because they fail to persist, they also fail to discover the fundamental steps that lead to greater heights in their chosen field of endeavor. Those who believe in them selves, believe in their dreams, and believe in their creator are those who are known today as successful. They are the worlds and God’s most celebrated men and women. They are the record breakers and the pace setters. They are those who have gone through the fire, the storm, the water, and the rigors of life. They are those who have walk through the valley and the shadow of death, and survived. They are those whom troubles have troubled on every side, but they persisted to the end and receive a glorious crown of joy. They have loss friends, love ones, husbands, wives, children, jobs, careers, parents, money, reputations, respect, positions of influence and affluence, business and fortunes. They face rejection on every side, even the rejected teamed up to rejected them. They have suffered oppression from heartless men in the society, men have planned evil against them but God delivered them. They were labeled with evil reputation because they did not fit in to the standards of men. They came to their own but their own rejected them. They cried out but no one came to their rescue. In the face of all these they refuse to give up because they know that the glory that lies ahead of them is far greater than their momentary tragedy.
Some times when men see them in their blessed state, they only speak of this new experience, but they never know what these men and women have survived. Every great man or woman you see today have faced and conquered many things to get to where they are today. If they had given up, their name would have forever gone into extinction.
He that went out to sow in tears shall return with a song of joy carrying sheaves with him; for God shall reward all their wasted years with a triumphant victory. He shall replace their shame with fame, their ashes with beauty, their pain with gain, and their disgrace with grace. He shall so transform their lives to the point that their lives will become amazement and an example of the God’s goodness.
The how-to-do-it inevitably comes to those who believe in themselves, their dreams and their creator.
What does it mean to believe in your self, in your dream and in your creator?
Believe in Yourself: Every individual is created unique. We are all endued and endowed with creative potentials to be successful in our designated area of endeavor. But some times circumstances of life tend to push us around until we conclude that we do not have what it takes to be successful. But that is not true. That you tried to do something reasonable with your life and failed does not mean you do not possess what it takes to be successful. That you are suffering today does not mean you will suffer forever. That you failed a test or an interview does not mean you will never make it in life or pass another test, exam or interview in your entire life. For the fact that ignorant men have concluded your life as failure does not mean you should join them to resign your self to a life of misery.
I do not know who you are, but God knows; and you are not reading this article by accident. It has being planned by divinity. This encounter is unique because God wants to do something unique in your life that will take you to places you have never imagined that you will be, and heights you have never envisage you will attain. You can make a difference and become the world and God celebrated if you take the time today and make the effort to believe that you have what it takes to succeed. Every day you wake up, say to yourself, ‘I have all it takes to be successful, I do not have the seed of failure in me. I am created to succeed, and will not settle for failure.’
It may be a fact that you came into this world through a poor and an irresponsible parents. It is clear you cannot deny that fact, but realize that it does not make you any less important. It does not mean you carry a seed of failure. It does not mean you are going to end up like them. Fair enough you came into this world through them, but you carry something different, and you are here to fulfill a different mandate. You are here for a different life- a life designed for you by God. People may say you are an illegitimate child, but ignore them. There is no such reality as illegitimate child or illegitimate parents. Those critics came into this world through the mating of male and female human specie. You also came into this world through the mating of male and female human specie. So in what way are they more important than your self? The most important factor is not that your parents were not legally married in human made institution, but that God allowed you to be here on earth because he wants you here to fulfill a mandate which only you can achieve.
Of all the millions of spermatozoa that were released during the sexual union between your father and your mother, only the one that represents you was able to survive the huddles and get it self fused up with the egg for fertilization. Isn’t that amazing! If you fail to fulfill your mandate you will have yourself to blame now and in the world to come. Do not live your life in futility and regret it at the end when it seems that the only thing left is to face your creator for an account of how you have used your life. When you transit from this physiological world, what will the world be missing, and what will you tell your creator you have done with the life and the various opportunities he gave to you? Think about this carefully and apply your heart to wisdom.
Believe in your dreams. We are all here to fulfill a different assignment. If you do not believe that your dreams are achievable, you will end up a miserable failure. Many may have tried what you are doing right now and failed, but you may be the one with right combination of talent to fulfill it. So, put your heart to what you are doing and do it well. The bible said, ‘whatever your hand finds to do, do it with your entire mind and with all your might’.
What is your dream? What is that thing that so forms the center of your thought and your life? Is there any praise in it, is there any virtue in it, is it meaningful and life transforming, is it edifying, will it liberate mankind, will it alleviate men from prevailing problems, will it glorify God and make him proud of you? If your answer is yes to all these questions, then you are on the right track, let nothing stop you from achieving it. Do you have a dream of building an educational institution that is uncommon to adequately liberate the people in your area from ignorance? Do you have a dream to establish a skill acquisition center and an industry that will adequately train and financially empower your people and convert them into useful individuals capable of contributing to the betterment of the country? Do you have a dream of building for yourself a befitting house? Do you have a dream of maintaining a cordial relationship with men and with God? Do you have a dream of living a productive and God fearing lifestyle? Do you have a dream of moving into world leadership so that you can politically contribute your own quota to shaping the political system into a more accountable and rewarding institution where their decisions are useful in steering the country in a way that impact positively in the lives of its citizen? All these are good dreams and if you believe they are achievable, you will inevitably receive divine and physical aids for successful accomplishment.
Whatever a man can conceive, believe and act upon with the right mental attitude and pre-established fundamental principles, the man can achieve in the process of time.
Believe in your creator. God told Isaiah, “I know the thought I have towards you. It is not a thought to harm you or allow your life to be meaningless. But my thoughts for you are good thoughts. They are thoughts to give you an expected end of a well fulfilled life”
Friend, God has all the resources, love, influence, power and commitment to make your life successful if only you believe in him and acknowledge him in everything you do. The wisest man that has ever lived, King Solomon, said
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart. Lean not on your own understanding, in all your ways acknowledge him and he shall direct your path”.
You may ask, ‘if God has the power to make my life meaningful, and if he also loves me, then why am I facing all these hardship and frustration?’Good question!Whatever we go through in life is not meant to harm us, but to train us. It is because we fail to realize this that is why we complain and conclude that God hates us. But if we put it in perspective we will realize at the end that the pain is gainful.This is so powerful that will like to repeat for emphases sake.
Whatever we go through in life is not meant to harm us, but to train us. It is because we fail to realize this that is why we complain and conclude that God hates us. But if we put it in perspective we will realize at the end that the pain is gainful.
If you must succeed, you must of a necessity believe that you have a loving heavenly father who delights in your total wellness and wellbeing. Your success gives him glory and brings him satisfaction. You must believe that he is capable and willing to commit everything to see that your success is evidence. He may not come when you think he should show up, but he is always on time. He is the only one with the power and willingness to adequately respond to your needs. He alone has the power to pull together all that is required to ensure your success. Therefore you must believe that he is capable and willing to commit everything to see that your success is evidence.
Armed with this conviction, you can go everywhere, do everything fully motivated because you know that your creator is behind you, and he will give you all the necessary aid as at when due. Even if you find things difficult at the moment, you know that he will show up at the right time to help you achieve all your heart desires and all that he has mandated you to fulfill. God is a good God and a present help in the time of need. Everything we are and will ever be is made possible by him, and he desires and planned the best for his entire creature. If only we can believe, all things are possible. There is no such reality as impossible dreams, but what we have is lack of persistence to turn all that seems impossible into possibilities. Anything that seems impossible today is things that we have not discovered the keys to make possible.
Finally my friend, when you believe in yourself, your dreams and your creator, there is no human being, spiritual forces and economic circumstances that can make a failure out of you. When the world economy crashes down, you shall make your own economy because you belong to a kingdom of unlimited prosperity where there lives the most potent and enduring economy. Paul, the apostle of Jesus Christ said, ‘My God shall supply all your needs according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus’. Your needs are not going to be supplied based on the economy of your country, but according to God’s riches in glory by Christ Jesus.
Strong belief triggers the mind to figuring ways and means to fulfill his life’s purpose. Believing you can succeed makes you to put on the right mental attitude that guarantees success. These attitudes are faith, persistence, confidence, enthusiasm, love, compassion, focus, determination, diligence, patience, obedience, optimism, creativity, righteousness, etc. When these attitudes becomes evidence in your life, then people can now see you as being responsible, and they will place their confidence in you and support you to stardom.
Those who believe they can move mountains do. Those who believe they can’t cannot and do not. For believe triggers the power to do, and those who succeeds are those who believe they can.
Belief in outstanding results is the driving force behind every great book, invention, creation, movie, and research, scientific and spiritual discoveries. Belief in success is the power behind every great business, successful church, political organization and academic institution. Belief in success is the brain behind high academic and professional excellence.
On the contrarily disbelief is the destructive power behind every failure. This is so because when the mind is imprisoned with disbelief and doubts, it attracts reasons to support the disbelief. These reasons now become weights that limit the performance of the individual. When a man does not belief in himself he cannot have the strong desire for success, and failure will inevitably becomes his daily companion. Those who harbor the second-best attitude are invariably second-best doers. Friend, believe in yourself, your dreams and your creator, and then good things will start coming your way. The motivating power of belief is all you need for outstanding accomplishment.
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Everyone can develop a healthy, robust fellowship that lightens the inner potentials of the individuals involved in fellowship and motivates them to live wholesomely and enjoy its benefits only if he or she commit to the hard work of getting along with people, treating people with dignity and honor.
Everyone human being performs better in the atmosphere of a healthy relationship of sincere fellowship. No one was created to exist alone, we all need each other. Due to this fundamental truth we must be able to live and interact with people in a lovable and courteous manner. However, as important as this aspect of human existence is, it can become an avenue of inflicting injuries that will take a long time to heal if one does not understand the principles that guides it. To understand the principles that guide fellowship, we must first and foremost understand what it is, how it is established, how to maintain and sustain it. In this article, I will want us to look at the major key words: Establish, Maintain, sustain, true and fellowship.
ESTABLISH: To establish something means to create, start, found, institute, ascertain, and launch something.
MAINTAIN: To maintain something means to uphold, continue, sustain, preserve, keep, keep, and retain something.
SUSTAIN: To sustain something means to maintain, continue, prolong, carry on, protract, keep on, uphold, and to keep something going.
TRUE: True means factual, accurate, correct, right, proper and exact.
FELLOWSHIP: Fellowship means companionship, friendship, friendliness, partnership, association, society, etc. This denote that it is an act of togetherliness where the individuals involved share a common interest, get acquainted, get close, become familiar and enjoy some level of affiliation and alliance. This encourages the ability to be to be responsive, involve in the affairs of others, stay connected in sincererity, and exhibit a high level of kindliness, openness, easiness, affability, outgoingness and civilized relationships.
Therefore, in the light of the above definition, to establish, maintain and sustain true fellowship means the action implemented to create, start, institute, uphold, continue, preserve, retain, prolong, and carry on factual, accurate and proper act of friendship, partnership, association and alliance with the sole purpose of achieving an end of mutual benefits and outstanding fulfillment. Any association that is void of this fundamental truth in its process of formation is simply not a fellowship, and it will never produce the common benefits of mutual edification.
Now what are the fundamental actions? That is what this article is all about. The steps below, if taken with positive spirit will help anyone to establish, maintain and sustain true fellowship.
HOW TO ESTABLISH, MAINTAIN AND SUSTAIN TRUE FRIENDSHIP
1.Education: You must teach the basic skills of relationships to those whom you want to enjoy fellowship with. It takes God’s power and your personal to motivate people to build and sustain a healthy relationship. Many people grew up in families of unhealthy relationships, so they lack the relational skills needed for real fellowship. They must be taught how to get along with people. If you are tired of fake fellowship and want to develop real fellowship and a polity of genuine friends you must pay attention to this truth.
2.Honesty: You must care enough to speak the truth in a loving way, even when you would rather gloss over a problem or ignore an issue. If you want to build genuine fellowship with people, you must create an atmosphere where people can speak up without being afraid of penalization. An honest answer is a true sign of friendship. Be frank, for men love and appreciate frankness more than flattery.
3.Humility: Humility means meekness, modesty, and unassuming nature. This character trait means nothing but it buys everything.
“"Live in harmony with each other. Do not try to act important, but enjoy the company of ordinary people. Do not think you know it all. Give more honors to others than to your self. Do not be interested only in your own life, but be interested in the lives of others’’
Self importance, smugness, pride, disobedience, and stubbornness destroy fellowship faster than anything else. Pride builds walls between people, but humility builds bridges. Humility is the oil that smoothes and soothes relationships. Clothe yourself with humility toward one another. The proper dress code for fellowship is humble attitude.
However, humility is not thinking less of yourself but rather think of your self less.
4.Resolve Conflict Correctly: When conflict is resolved correctly, we grow closer to each other. Until you care enough to confront and resolve the underlying barriers, you will never grow close to each other. No matter what happens never use harsh words when you are correcting an older man, but talk to him as if he were your father, talk to younger men as if they were your brother, talk to older women as if they were your mothers and younger women as if they were your sisters.
No matter what happens never use harsh words when you are correcting an older man, but talk to him as if he were your father, talk to younger men as if they were your brother, talk to older women as if they were your mothers and younger women as if they were your sisters.
5.Confidentiality: Only in a safe environment of warm acceptance and trusted confidentiality will people open up and share their deepest hurts, feelings, needs, and mistakes. What is shared with you in secrete should not be broadcasted in the open. Gossip is spread by wicked people; they stir up trouble and break up friendship, courses hurt, divisions, and sometimes create life enemies.
6.Regular contact: This will help to build the bond of intimacy that cannot be easily broken. You must spend a lot of time together with people to build deep relationship that enhance life impacting fellowship.
7.Courtesy: Courtesy is the act of respecting the individuality of a person, being considerate of each others feelings, being patient with people who irritates us. We must bear the burden of being considerate of the doubts and fears of others. In every society there are people who are difficult. These are people with special emotional needs, deep insecurities, irritating mannerisms or poor social skills. They are what is referred to as the EXTRA GRACE REQUIRED (EGR) people. To fellowship with such people you must understand where they are coming from. The place of hurt feelings; the place of no love; the place of lack of display of affection; the place where self interest is given uppermost priority; the place of betrayal. If you understand this and try to put yourself in their shoes you will be able to understand why they behave the way they do.
Be devoted to each other like loving family and excel in showing respect for each other.
8.Demonstrate Sympathy and Empathy: To build, maintain and sustain true fellowship, we must be both sympathetic and empathetic. We must show high level of understanding, compassion, consideration, kindness, pity and commiseration with those with whom fate and misfortune has laid heavy weight on. We must be able to enter and share in the pains of others. As people that were created to fulfill divine purpose, we must be sympathetic and empathetic, kind, humble, gentle and patient with our fellow human being. When this is done we can true say that we are our brother’s keeper, and the bond love will improve, increase and unbreakable.
We need sympathy and empathy in our relationship with people because this satisfies two fundamental needs of human beings:
The need of validation of feelings: The people we interact with on a daily basis need confirmation, justification and corroboration of feelings. Their feelings need to be supported. They need us to affirm and support them emotionally, and also they want us to make them feel welcomed, supported, admired, approved and justified. This can only be done if we are sympathetic and empathetic with others.
The need to be understood: Men and women need their fellow human to understand them. It is dangerous for you to judge people based on wrong premises. Those who form the habit of misunderstand intentions cannot build a formidable relationship, and inevitably cannot maintain a healthy fellowship with others. When others are in pain do you feel it as though you were the one that is actually going through that situation? If your answer to that question is no, then you need to check your life and find out if you are a plus or a minus to people around you. We need to enter into each others pain and help to carry their burden in one way or the other according to our ability. When you constantly form the habit of giving excuse for not participating in the activities of others in a friendly and supportive way, you are building a life style that will inevitably land you loneliness tomorrow. You will lack the required relational skills in fellowshipping with others; you will lack feelings for people. You may be in their midst but you do not feel them.
People are motivated to live happily and purposefully when they have people around them who sympathize and empathize with them. And every time you understand and affirm somebody’s feelings, you are building friendship that will last till eternity and do you good at many instances at places you least expect. A despairing man who have the devotion of his friends in the time of time of distress shall be encourages and motivated to live a meaningful life all the days of his life.
Every time you understand and affirm somebody’s feelings, you are building friendship that will last till eternity and do you good at many instances at places you least expect. A despairing man who have the devotion of his friends in the time of time of distress shall be encourages and motivated to live a meaningful life all the days of his life.
9.Mercy: Mercy is the action of showing compassion, clemency, pity, forgiveness, kindness, understanding, leniency and sympathy. If you must build, maintain and sustain true fellowship with others you must be able create enough room in your heart to accommodate the mistakes and short comings of others even as they are tolerating your own. We all have character problems, even the best of men have. Your area may be different from the other person, it does not mean that you are that most perfect. What some body else detest may be your favorite. That is life for you! Fellowship is an atmosphere of grace where mistakes are rubbed out. It is an atmosphere where mercy reigns over justice.
It is very difficult for people with different biological background or seemingly similar background to interact with one offending the other. But when you are offended the way you handle it matters. When men sin against you, do not condemn them rather comfort them and correct them in love so that they will not give up in despair. Do not hold grudges, against your fellow man, for bitterness and resentment always destroy friendship and fellowship. There is no way you can live and have fellowship with people without you hurting them or them hurting in some ways, because we are all imperfect. Though we are striving toward perfection, we will inevitably hurt each other when we are together for either a short or a long enough time. Some time we hurt others deliberately and some time unintentionally, but either way we must learn to accommodate each others fault, forgive one another so that we can fellowship with a purified mental attitude.
In the light of the aforementioned, I will like to emphasize the following truth:
Forgiveness is instant but trust is time: Forgiveness does not mean the practice of foolishness. If someone forms the habit of offending you often, you are required to forgive him or her immediately, but you are not required to trust the person immediately, and allow him or her to continue hurting you. He or she must prove his or her self over time trustworthy before you can attempt to restore trust.
Fellowship is not an action of monopoly: Fellowship means mutual interaction. It is an atmosphere of give and take. The opinion of everyone is important and supreme. When fellowship becomes monopolized by the opinion and ideas of only one person, it is no longer fellowship, but a practice of monopoly. Monopolistic fellowship is deceptive, hypocritical and destructive. This account for the reason why small groups in the church of today are lacking in the fire that is required to set aflame the bond of sincere love. This fellowship becomes shallow because they concentrate on killing time with each other instead of spending time with each other. And when we do gather it one person that dominate the discussion of the day, and when that person is not around the others must wait because only his opinion has being considered acceptable. What an error! Everyone has something to offer, and until you give them the opportunity, you cannot benefit from them. Hear me; Fellowship becomes interesting when we all benefit from all that make up that fellowship.
If small group in the church can search for common ground through participatory interaction, and engage them selves in things that empowers and establish their relevance in the society, there shall exist a bond of love amongst them which no power in the whole universe can subdue, and there shall be massive revival in the church and the almighty God shall be happy with the work of his servants. The church will become more meaningful in the lives of the society, and there will be joy in the land of the living. Well, I will not proceed further in this regard; I will visit it properly in subsequent articles.
10.Loyalty: To build, maintain and sustain true fellowship, you and all the people you connect with must be dependable, trustworthy, and faithful. You must be devoted to each other. You must be able to watch each others back, and be able to manage their lives and represent them in good light before the public. It is the spirit of loyalty that makes men to sacrifice their lives, position, prestige, comfort, money, and affiliation to defend their friend and rescue him in the time of need. Ask your self am I a loyal friend? The test of true love is the commitment to an undulating loyalty.
My pastor, Papa Ayo Oritsejafor, said, ‘Your love is not strong enough until you are able to love a person to his fault’. I have been pondering over that statement, and every time I look at it, it makes more sense to me. That was exactly what God did; he sent his only begotten son Jesus Christ to die for us even while we yet sinners. Our fault did not stop him from loving us. Once you have decided to make someone your friend or fellowship with him realize that you must love him irrespective of his fault or short coming. He may have a major character problem, but because your sustenance and well being is attached to him, you must love and remain loyal to him. Most, especially if they are your leaders in some way. The church today lacks loyalty that is why we are stabbing and killing each other over issues of non consequences. True Fellowship can only be established in the presence of an undulating Loyalty.
Friend in conclusion, I want to say that building, maintaining and sustaining true friendship requires some level of commitment to hard work. But when properly sustained, its benefits are enormous. Let everyone who desires to be happy in life, make as his daily task a certain level of commitment to build quality contact; for this will help him to reach where his talent and skills may not be able to reach. It will help him maintain relevance and live a continuous life of victory in places and times unimaginable. He that fails to do this shall have problem with his harvest and live in perpetual atmosphere of turmoil, catastrophe and un-achievement. This statement is pregnant and because of that I am going to repeat it for emphasis sake. It more profitable to commit statement of wisdom like this to memory, than cramming theories that are completely irrelevant to your life, and to where you are going to.
Let everyone who desires to be happy in life, make as his daily task a certain level of commitment to build quality contacts; for this will help him to reach where his talent and skills may not be able to reach. It will help him maintain relevance and live a continuous life of victory in places and times unimaginable. He that fails to do this shall have problem with his harvest and live in perpetual atmosphere of turmoil, catastrophe and un-achievement.
Before I live you, I will want you to ask yourself, ‘What major steps can I take today to connect with people at moregenuine heart-to-heart level?’ When you have found answers to this question, make it your daily task as long as you live, you will experience more happiness, you will have reliable and loyal friends, and your life will fulfill at ease your life’s purpose.
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